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Arranged or Your Choice… what could possibly be the best form of finding a marriage partner? (18 posts)

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Haroon said 1 year, 6 months ago:

In so many communities around the World, families reach extreme lengths to find their grown children a suitable partner where as some single people would rather do this without anyone’s help. We have seen and heard so many reports about the outcomes of this issue and now that you are single, it is probably the best time to discuss it.

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Bashir Yusufari said 1 year, 6 months ago:

nowadays you better go for your choice rather than to be arranged. during those days, arranged ones were better cos your parents go for the best 1 wit acceptable qualities but for nowadays, parents dont really know wat their girl child is up to talkless of others.

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mishka said 1 year, 6 months ago:

I think finding your own is best – coz u know what u are looking for , u need to have that connection /spark when u meet that person , thats what keeps u together , rather than trying soo hard to make it work in an arranged marriage.And u only together to make your parents happy .

I have tried many arranged proposals , its so difficult to find that connection with a complete stranger – i have just given up .
If I am meant to meet someone , it will happen naturally ….. eventually , right ??

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Haroon said 1 year, 6 months ago:

It is good finding your own partner but it is also important to note that parents tend to find someone who is well known for his modesty and normally a person who will get on well with your family.
Much as many parents just want to get rid of their grown up daughters or sons, they will never want someone who will make their children’s lives a living hell.
However, it is worth noting that people change according to the level of their Iman and family background.

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Mogamat Shafiek Christian said 1 year, 6 months ago:

I think the arranged marriage topic is really being misunderstood by many, just thought i would put the subject line here “arrange or choice” this topic has become in such a way the most sensative subject to deal with in the islamic world today because of some people practising there own orthodox methods of getting daughters married to men they feel is a good match and enforcing these type of orthodox methods, i am not going to go into much detail but the topic of arrange marriage still have choice, and like many of u said above its about compatibility and understanding, if a marriage is arranged at a young age allow the two parties to meet when the time is right and decide if they are suited for each, let them know of each other before marriage already so the girl has and idea of the person ,,, ,,, i’ll stop here for now … wa salaams.

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Farhan said 1 year, 5 months ago:

I would not marry a girl I don’t know. Arrange marriage is good for families and parents but still I would want know if we are compatible before she is my wife. Islamic sharia dictates two marrying people should have equal responsibility to provide physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual happiness to each other, if this can be achieved through arranged marriage, I would go for it other wise I would seek normal marriage in accordance with the Sunah.

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Habib Ahmedin said 1 year, 5 months ago:

really?

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olayemi yusuf said 1 year, 3 months ago:

i need who to chat with in nigeria

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sakina yahaya said 1 year, 3 months ago:

salam.i will go with my choice.becouse i know alort of arrenge marriages that doesnt go any were .and as a result the relation ship of the two families involved come to an end.which before they ar the best of friends.

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farahm said 1 year, 2 months ago:

I am half Pakistani and half American. My father has always told me and my sister’s that there is no compromise when it comes to dating or meeting some one with out parental supervision this is how we where raised and have no trouble with it How ever i do see where its a cultural issue for both sides. For example…. Every one my father has met so far wants money that’s not the right thing to do since we are not asking for a Dowry then why should the other partner ask for one hard work and sacrifice makes a firm foundation not being reliant on ones parents if the parents want to give then that’s fine but don’t make it a condition of marriage. I speak English that’s how i was raised i read the Qur’an in English but that isn’t good enough I am just as much a Muslim no matter what language i read the Qur’an in. …..Now lets go on to my next unable to understand issue……………………..
I have pets, i love them and i care for them 2 cats and a dog all where rescued from death i helped then come back to health, what is wrong to care for a thing that was created but man made domestic and depended on humans why is it wrong, please don’t give the obvious answer, please don’t give me a hate speech give me a intelligent answer ok thank you
My parents are trying to do the right thing according to their duties as parents but theses are just some of the issues I have thus not allowing them to complete their responsibilities
to me tell me what i honestly should do

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ishtiaq said 10 months, 3 weeks ago:

name ishtiaq nationality pakistan reside country uae private ID (ishtiaqsm19@yahoo.com

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samsoenisa said 10 months ago:

I want 2 marry a man of my choice tht he will love nd he loves me nd our familires must get along with each other I am looking for my soul mate is he out there

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faizan said 9 months, 3 weeks ago:

marriage of choice is also good, and arrange is also good , in arrange ur parents decide a girl or a guy, and i know the choice of parrents is more good than our choices cause they just dont look the beauty , they look the behaviour and manners and a lot of thing which reflects the guys enriching too. while we youngs see just beauty, and beauty doesnt go far. it doesnt mean that youngs dont select a good choice , they do also good choices sometimes more than their parrents. but dont go on just beauty. see the behaviour too of the guy or the girl with others that how he or she responses to others cause obviously he or she will give good response to you cause s/he loves you. my eng is not good but i think i have submit the message to you all.

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akram sidiqui said 9 months, 2 weeks ago:

marriage, love or arranged does not make a difference at all. the basic factor that gaurentees a long lasting and sanctified marriage is the amount of tolrance thhat both the partners exercise while pinng hopes on one another…if both the partners exercise restrain and respect each other the couple will be the happiest ever on the face of earth

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melka said 7 months, 1 week ago:

i am ethiopian and i want to married with out boarder,color,race and education.but must muslim women

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