Romance Scams… what are they and what is your opinion on this issue? (20 posts)

Topic tags: dating, liars, money, Muslim, online, partner, romance, scams
  • Profile picture of Haroon Haroon said 1 year, 7 months ago:

    Many sisters and brothers out there feel safe (avoiding sinning and all sorts of trouble) or even find it much easier to find partners online rather than trying to meet them face-to-face if possible at all but many fall victim of romance scams. Now you may tell us about these scams are how they are operated.

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  • Profile picture of Naveed Naveed said 1 year, 7 months ago:

    I Have Meet Lots of Fake Girls/Womans in Online Dating Sites .They Are Uploading Fake Pictures And Stole Pictures .After Than They Are Asking for Some Money Liked $200 to $800 Dollars in Africa Country Needs Helps Her Mums’s Sick,Buy Medicine ,Hotels Pays ,Internet Fees,Foods Money And Trying to Make you Fools and Big Liars And Much More .Never Give Some Money And Tells Them I Don’t Have Money And I Cann’t Helps you are SCAMMERS .I Meet 2 US Woman And I Send it Two US Woman Helps it Money One for $250 and Second for $ 300 They Never Give you Yours Money Back ,Asking you More Money and then Ruin Away With yours Money .So That Means We Needs to Be Careful and Stayed Safe .

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  • Profile picture of Haroon Haroon said 1 year, 7 months ago:

    well said brother Naveed… they are even on this website they normally don’t upload pictures but the next thing you know they are giving you their yahoo or gmail email and asking you to email them.

    One strong warning… anyone who tries to divert you from this website especially if they have only known you in one day or one week or in fact, why don’t they trust the email service of this website.

    They use so many tricks and even have pictures of themselves but the end point is to find their way of stealing your money. I have met so many scammers and one of them even pretended to be a very practising Muslima using Islamic words and so forth.

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  • Profile picture of Shifa Shifa said 1 year, 7 months ago:

    I have met a lot of fake man, they are using islamic words looks like a good muslim, but they never talk on a reality/facts. They talk about love, and how much he admired me.. that’s all.

    They also check.. whether you have your own home, car and what is your designation /title in your office.

    They will not stand for more than 3 weeks, then he will send you a package/parcel but stuck in custom so need my help to send some money to custom officer in Malaysia. Or.. he will visit malaysia for a business and got problem in Malaysia…

    I don’t know why it always end in Malaysia, the guys are from UK and US, I thought they have a well organize SCAMMER company…!!

    I always remind myself, if it seems too good to be true.. then we have to be aware…

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 1 year, 7 months ago:

    I was approached by a scammer from here just a day ago!-as soon as I heard ‘I have something vital to tell you’ I heard warning bells! -I accepted the yahooo email address, and my worries where proved right straight away-I blocked her from then,

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 1 year, 7 months ago:

    yes its sad that even this website is not free from these scammers.i mean i just joined and i have had a few guys give me thier e-mail addresses and one guy telling me about the millions in pounds that i won.People should not fall for that especially if you have not even bought a ticket.Scammers really are the worse kind of humanity because they cause so much emotional pain with their lies .Beware of pics that look too good and google people you interested in.

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    La illah ilallah.
    With the “shrinking of the world” as our nabi(pbuh) prophecized ab out over 1400 years ago comes an increase in con-gamers and con-gamer opportunities. They are little-more than petty annoyances. They can only get an advantage over the believer that strays from the community if muslims. Just as the wolf can only get the advantage on the sheep that strays from the flock. AS long as we are together, we can talk about what they are attempting to accomplish (in forums like this). But if you are isolated, and given to your own interpetition of things you are easy prey for these people.

    the ummah is our guard against these crooks.

    your brother
    hajihaqq
    oakland

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  • Profile picture of Farhan Farhan said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    I can’t believe people are still falling for this. Who would send money for a package from strange who cannot avoid to pay the duty fee?, or someone locked but can still use the internet to say they are locked or sick mother in Nigeria who does not exist? or American born who ended in West Africa and want escape (who is African guy real life)? or good will for dying cancer elder who want donate money but want money to make it possible!!?

    People if you have money donate it to well known Islamic organization for the suffering poor, they will be thankful and you will get it rewarded hereafter, don’t give it to merciless fake scam – who will be laughing at your stupidity.

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  • Profile picture of Haroon Haroon said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    I had one interesting scammer… she seemed rather attractive and I thought I had at last got my soulmate. She sent me to her yahoo email and during then I was new to bestmuslim.com and never had much information about such people.

    I kept observing her/his picture which looked too bright but I never took any concerns because I never knew much about romance scammers. We talked a lot about things and this person took long to even talk about money problems. We sent emails everyday and she used to talk much about very interesting things that I really liked.

    This is by Allah’s Mercy, what actually gave this scammer away… the more I knew this person the more I wanted to even know more… sounds funny lol
    So one day I decided to just google “her” to see if they had facebook or are well known for something… and ALLAH AKBAR…
    ALLAH AKBAR
    The first/second line from the google results introduced me to a new world of romance scams. I saw her/his username in the results as well as the picture…
    Oh boy… oh boy was I shocked…
    Straight away I went to my email and bestmuslim.com to confirm the pictures… I later on told the scammer to provide me with a picture of her holding a mug…. She/He disappeared when I also told about my findings…

    that is one of my challenges to suspicious scammers but the most important one I use is that I DON’T SEND MONEY BUT BORROW SOME MONEY WHEN YOU COME HERE TO UK I WILL PAY IT BACK… especially after you are married and settled…

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  • Profile picture of Abdulkabir Abdulkabir said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    It’s very surprising 2 hear that some muslims are still falling prey to scammers.Any muslim who understands the dynamics of islam and operates within that limit should not be a victim because their tricks are rarely logical.I have always be wondering on what should been resposible 4 such act, poverty is not an enogh evidence. I think greediness and godlessness are contributory factors.
    There4, it becomes imperative 4 anyone that has the opportunity of sermonising them especially through their email 2 see it as a religious responsibility. The Quran and the hadith encourage us 2 change evil if we have opportunity. I have on different occasion had such experience and that is what I normally do. Their words have never appealled 2 me.

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  • Profile picture of Ebrima Ebrima said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    ONLY IF THEY KNOW WHAT AWAITS THEM IN THE HEREAFTER

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  • Profile picture of Teresa Teresa said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    i have been a victim of a romance scammer. i had been a widow for over a year and was really very vulnerable. Did not know that such activity exist. there were signs, but i thought that it was better to take a chance. pls to all wbo are new to online dating, do not send money to anyone for any reason.

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  • Profile picture of shainaaz shainaaz said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    as salaam wa alaikum… i can relate to most of the responses. Algamdurillah and shukir to the Almighty i was not naive to send any money to the scammer who befriended me…. i am a large girl and is always a bit stunned if men find me attrative… so my radars is always on alert… as with Shifa the talk only of love and how we are destined to be together… my scammer sweet talked me for over 2 months.
    i do think they try and find the lonely, and vulnerable but my scammer barked up the wrong tree… i might be a fat, single and looking for my better half but that does not mean that i am desperate, pathetic loser who is naive… and besides i love my money too much lol….
    But no seriously my scammer said all the right things… emailed me all the time… portrait a good muslim who cared for his mom (they always either divorced or a widow with kids) …
    He was planning to come and visit me… we even made plan to meet in person… this guy was good hey… he even gave me his number to call and i spoke to an actual person… got suspicous when i thought why he never video chats and the picture of his daughter was linked to someone else facebook profile.
    he always avoided my request to send new pics of himself and just come over as way to eager to win me over…
    and yes my scammer was also from the uk who went to malaysia… in malaysia he got stuck with a consignment for his business and wanted me to wire him money…

    i immediately knew that my gut instict was right… and send him a mail to say i knew what was going on and it was all a scam… u should see the response i received…. i was so insulted and bad mouthed. But I know this person will get his day. He actually told me that has con many a women and especially ladies from malaysia… so sisters be very careful.

    i must say even though i was smart enough not to send money and on alert i did feel very hurt emotionally and ego did take a knock cause u open up and share you thoughts and ideas. i think life is already complicated enough to still have to deal with these scammers as well.

    shukran haroon for giving us this platform to vend… i think you should also open question of the perverts you find on the online chats as well.

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    lot of them.. filling up my inbox..annoying tho..

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  • Profile picture of Haroon Haroon said 1 year, 6 months ago:

    A friend sent me this message and gave me permission to share it with everyone here… May Allah bless her and give her all the desires she wants in her life and afterlife.

    Her story is as below:

    ” salam haroon, thanks for your nice message …believe me i am careful and i know many not good people in internet and sites!! i have the biggest experience of that! in 2008 i met an algerian man in http://www.muslima.com i talked 2 months with him every day many hours in msn and saw his whole family in webcam he wanted me to come to algeria and marry islamic in his familyhouse……i trusted him so i did i even travelled 10 TIMES FROM HOLLAND TO ALGERIA BIG TRAVELS HOTELS LOST MANY MANY MONEY with this, out my hearth and …he turned out to be in real, totally different very cruel very evil i even cried many times in the hotel there!!!! his dream to leave his country and go to amsterdam with me and just wanted to use me for that! hamdulellah i stopped that and i finished him!!!! HAMDULELLAH but lost all my savingmoney many thousands …so i am now very very careful walahi!!!! thank you anyway haroon hamdulellah!!! “

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